Ulterior Motive – The Hidden Gene

 

 

“You going to the kitchen?” she asked.
“No. Bathroom.” He replied
“Okay. Bring my water from the kitchen when you’re coming back, please.”
Walks out the room, shaking his head.

 

“When you get a break, I want you to take something off the top shelf for me.” She said.
“Okay.” He replied, and continued watching the finals.
A few moments later.
“You didn’t hear me ask you to take down something for me. Never mind, I’ll climb up and do it myself.” Kisses teeth.
He promptly creates a break and do what he said he was going to do.

 

Wife calls husband at work close to quitting time.
“Honey, do you want spaghetti and meatballs for dinner?” She knows it’s his favourite.
“Sure babe, that sounds great.”
“Okay, pick up some tomato sauce on your way home, we haven’t got any. And since you’re going to the supermarket anyway, I just sent you a list. Later. Love you.” She hangs up.
He groans and sinks further into his chair.

Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? If you’ve ever been or are currently in a long-term relationship, then they should.

Gentlemen, your woman knows every button you have, every function they perform and the location of these buttons.

The gene referenced above most often occurs in those that possess the XX chromosomes, aka, the fairer sex.

You see, we men are simple creatures, most often we say what we mean or we mean what we say.
Now, don’t confuse this with lying. Everybody lies. Although some people will claim the other sex is dominant in that regard, I believe no one gender holds a monopoly on lying.

Everybody lies.

No, what I’m talking about is manipulation.
Manipulation. One definition states the following:
“Control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly or unscrupulously”

 

In this subject matter gentlemen, we are preschoolers compared to our better halves, who attained their doctorates by the time they hit puberty. We routinely apologise without having a clue as to the offence; stay quiet, when every fibre of our being is screaming to respond and we sacrifice our plans.

All in the name of peace or “piece”.

Have you ever been watching a movie with your love and the man in the scene performs some grand romantic gesture and all of a sudden you get the question,
“How come you never did anything like that for me?”
Trap.

Or, she’s on the phone consoling a girlfriend who just found out her man was cheating and in the middle of the call she turns to you and asks,
“Why man stay so?” or worse, if you know the couple,
“Did you know?”
Trap.

Gentlemen, if you want a long, healthy relationship, get to know the keywords, tonality of voice and facial expressions. It can save your relationship and your life.

Here are just a few examples to look and listen out for. You can develop your own list based on experience.

 

A high-pitched “Honey” or “Sweety” – This usually means you’re about to be asked to do something she knows you hate.

 

“Where you going?” – I told you we men are simple; most times we are thinking of one, maybe two things at any given time. Women, on the other hand, have a continuous data stream flowing through their minds, constantly searching for connection in the outside world. So, when you answer this question with something like “The barber”, something similar to what takes place on a train track or in an airport luggage conveyor system occurs.

Instantly, the route to the barber triggers a memory that her friend Peggy promised her a pair of earrings like the ones she wore 2 summers ago at the pool party. They were a speciality item only available through one store and she had ordered them for her 6 months ago, but she hasn’t had the time to go visit her because they both work different hours.
But the barbershop is only 10 miles from her house and she should be home today because its Sunday.

Please note that the example above is an extremely simplified scenario, as I am neither an expert on the human brain or on relationships.

 

Accusatory stare with eyebrows brought together. – This can be anything, from a dream about you cheating, to the passenger seat feeling like it’s been adjusted from ‘her’ setting. This stare occasionally results in an apology at the lower end and an expensive gift at the other, with a whole lot of options in-between.

As I said, experience will assist you with coming up with your own lists, but just remember, ‘when in doubt, shut your mouth’.

 

Now ladies, if you are with a man that loves and respects you, please know that 95% of the time, if you ask for something directly, you’ll get it. There is no need to manipulate us.

However, I need you to be real about something; the phrase “you can’t have your cake and eat it too” will be quite applicable to the following statement:

If you ask us for something or to do something, as I said, we’ll do it, but don’t expect us to be HAPPY about it.

 

Please, just focus on the goal; the “thing”. Whatever the thing is. I know packaging is a big deal for women, not just the contents; however, in this instance, I kindly ask that you relax that policy in order to achieve the ultimate goal.

We’re not going to come skipping with glee while performing the task you just ask us to do, knowing full well that we:

• Don’t like doing it, and
• Were doing something else.

We are well aware of your powers over us and I only ask that you remember the number 1 superhero rule:

“With great power, comes great responsibility.”

So please, use responsibly.

Later.

 

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Dane